Example 3) of Crymunication – Process Overload

Crymunication
Crymunication – Environmental Awareness
Crymunication – Cyclic Confirmation
Crymunication – Process Overload

In my opinion this is the most important Crymunication technique that guys need to understand. So listen really closely my brothers. You need to understand this one because this is when you are needed to be a man the most. So let me explain Crymunication – Process Overload.

So let’s say you’re having a conversation with a girl and all of a sudden she breaks down in tears. You can’t quite figure out why she is crying because you were talking about your favorite ice cream flavors. Your conversation wasn’t that bad, you thought. You’re trying to figure out why she is crying but she isn’t saying anything that makes sense. You hear something like this

“*sob*…*sob*…*sniff*….paper…*sniff*…*sob*…*sob*Ashlee...*sob*…time card*sob* *sob* *sniff*”

So let me translate what happened then I’ll translate the secrete message then I’ll help you understand what to do. First what happened. What happened here is that the girl you are currently speaking with is processing too much information at once about many topics. You’ve reached her breaking point, as defined in an earlier example of Crymunication, and now you are at the aftermath. This is why it doesn’t seem to make sense.

Secondly let me translate the message. Each barely understandable word is the topic point of one thing on her mind. So take out all the words you can understand. Paper, Ashlee, Time card. What you need to do now is to think of every possible meaning for each one and why she would cry about it. “Paper” could be many things. So what paper would make her cry? This could mean she is writing a paper and is having trouble, there could be a paper that is due (perhaps a bill or homework), or maybe even she needed a specific piece of a paper for something special she wanted to do. Ok so we have that word, we don’t understand it yet so we’ll move on. You know who Ashlee is in this scenario. (Let’s say she’s a friend at work). So either something happened to Ashlee, Ashlee did something mean, or some event occurred with Ashlee that is causing stress. “Time card”… this one is pretty straight forward… it’s her time card at work (mind you sometimes you can be wrong about the straight forward ones). *WARNING* DO NOT TRY TO COMBINE THE WORDS INTO ONE THOUGHT. Remember she is overloading so these are not one thought. So don’t say Ashlee lost the time card paper at work… you will be wrong and she will eat you alive. All you know is that there is a problem with some piece of paper, Ashlee, and a time card. You only have an idea. In some scenarios you will actually already know from prior conversations but all the same you only have an idea. Ok so now you have an idea of why she is crying now we have to figure out what to do.

Finally what to do. This is the most tricky and important part. In some scenarios you have to say nothing and other scenarios you have to say the right things. So how do you know when to do what? It’s a little more simple than you think. Let’s take it slow.

Step 1) Prod her
You need to figure out what to do, real quick. So start by gently, as gently as can be, asking her ‘what’s wrong.’ Now she’ll get mad, say ‘nothing,’ or cry more.

Step 2) Translations
Based on each of her responses there will be a different translation of the event. If she gets mad at you immediately she is angry and wants somebody to listen. If she says ‘nothing’ she IS mad at your or she thinks you are upset with her. If she cries more she wants to talk about it.

Step 3) Resolution.
If she gets mad you need to stop talking from that point on. Just listen and sympathize and remember she probably isn’t mad at you. The ending can go very well or very horrible for you. If you speak the anger will be directed at you for not understanding. If you say nothing you’ll be a great listener and sometimes rewarded and then you’ll thank God.

If she says “nothing” be afraid because she is upset with you or nervous that she has upset you. If it’s the latter just be really loving and let her know you love her, if she is mad at you just apologize because let’s face it… it is probably your fault.

If she starts crying worse and you get another coded message it means she wants to talk, so talk and take it slow. Once you finish talking it out she’ll be very happy and feel very loved, which should be your goal. It may take time but it is completely worth it. And you may be rewarded. You’ll thank God.